Lunch + Room =????

Been away too long, right?
Really ...really sorry for abandoning my peeps like dat.
I could say that I've ben busy as hell...
or that I travelled for an official assignment.
But that would be a lie...
I have come here, lots of times with so much to write about, yet there was no zeal to put down anything.
I have been at your blogs, yes all ur blogs!
Read all the gists but left as silently as I came.
Dont ask me why cos I dont know...
Just had this silly reluctance to show my presence,lol...


Today, I said, warrahelll!
I'm gonna put something down on this blog whether the devil likes it or not,lol...

Got nothing much to say tho....
I've been okay, work's been good, Family's fine. Nothings's happened in my love life yet. Not that the toasters aint coming but am not ready to commit my heart to just any guy anymore especially after what happened with O.
I'm gonna take my time...no rush.

I just got a text from one of my clients now. It read:
" Hi, Aphro, Is ABC Hotel okay for lunch? Should I book a room so that we can have a good chat? We can order Room service, if you dont mind. Pls reply."

My reply was: "ABC is okay. No need booking a room, we can chat conveniently at the restaurant. Thank you."

Shouuuuuuu!!!

My people, see me see wahala o...

You wan carry me go lunch, wetin concern booking room inside that one now? Abi no be extra something this one dey find?lol...

Okay lemme explain,

This guy is married. He has been my client for more than 3 years now so we are kinda very friendly as in chat on a personal level some times.
He offered to take me to lunch sometime last year and since then I have been non commital.

Well, yesterday after a meeting I had with him. I accepted his offer for lunch.
I was especially feeling very grateful to him cos I had gone to apologise for something that happened on a job he gave my company to handle. It was my fault and I had to fix it, my boss had emphasized.
Luckily for me, he(client) graciously accepted the apology but again raised the issue of lunch which I agreed to.

Now this text message...

Men! Men!!!

Why do they do this...all the time???

But wait o...am I thinking too far? Maybe it's just an innocent request?

Ur take guys?

Still smoking like fire!!!!

While at work yesterday, my cousin called to say she was dropping by...
She's starting her biz and wanted some PR ideas...
"You look good!" she exclaimed when she came.
"Thanks" I replied, taking a sweeping look at myself.
Just a black shirt on a black & white skirt. What's the big deal, I thought.
Took an excuse from Mr. Boss...
Then we headed to a nearby eatery for a hearty meal and some discussion.

Meal...nice
Discussion...going well...
Waiter calls me out to move my car cos someone needed to leave.
On my way back in...
"Excuse me Ma'am" It was the waiter.
"Yes?" I turned to him.
Handing a Business card to me...
"A customer asked me to give this to you"
Quick glance at the card. It read ...bla bla bla Motors....M.D...
"Which Customer?" I queried.
"He has left. He tried to get your attention but couldnt so he asked me to give you this so you can call him"

*Na so dem dey call?*(in my head)

Got back to the table.
Dropped Card in front of my cousin.
Eye brows raised, "What's this?" she asked
"The new style of toasting"
We both laughed.

Still eating and ideas flowing...
I glanced to the table on my left.
This dude was staring...as in really STARING at me.
Looked away...
Looked again...
He mouthed the words "Y-O-U L-O-O-K B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L"
I looked away, pretending I didnt get the message.

Mid-discussion with cousin, dude butts in.
"Sorry, but are you a wedding planner?" No dude, am not Oluwadee,lol... (In my head)
He was looking at me.
Cousin looks irritated.
I look amused. Actually I was amused.
What a line...
"No I' m not" smiling, I turn my attention back to Coz.

I was describing something to her,
She was listening attentively
He was staring stupidly,lol....
"You know, you will do very well as a marketer in a bank"
It was the guy again,
Cousin was irritated again,
I was amused, yet again.

"I am in marketing, but I dont work in a bank"
"Can I get your card?"
Split-second thinking...
It wont hurt...
He may even be a new business prospect...
"Okay" I handed over my Biz card.
"I'll call you" he said as he got up to leave.

I turn to cousin.
Now, she looks amused.
"Babe, you haven't lost it sha...you still smoking like fire!!"

*Smug Smile*

"Oh yes I am! Too bad for those who can't see it..."

Pain...

Guys...
My heart just broke as in literally shatter to pieces.
I thought it was already broken and I was trying to put the pieces back together...
I thought the worst was over and it could never get any more painful or worse...
But the pain I feel right now is even worse than the one I felt before.
The ache I feel in my heart is so real...
So real, I can almost touch it.

I didnt know he still had the power to hurt me like this.
Was it that somewhere in my heart, I still hoped...
or maybe somehow I still cared even when I told myself otherwise?

Why then did that little phrase I just saw on his FB page affect me so?
Why did I feel like the world was pulled off from under my feet when I read it?
I wont lie...
My eyes stung from trying to hold back the tears.
My heart beat increased from anxiety...

It was only a short phrase...
a short phrase on his FB page...
a short phrase that hurt me and broke my heart all over again...
A short phrase that said...
"In a relationship"

Of course, I didnt expect him to live a hermit's life.
I even suspected it was another woman all along...
but it still came as a shock(don't know why)

I confess
I secretly hoped...
Prayed...
That he was pining away...
missing me terribly...

Lol...
A silly wish, I know

But guys...

He used to profess undying love to me...

We made all those crazy plans for our future together...

Its only natural that I feel this way, right?

You know that part that hurts the most?

All through the months we dated, he never put it up there
on Facebook that he was in a relationship.

Maybe I should just take him off my FB friends list.

What do y'all feel?

:(

:( :(

Standards or Limitations??

Hey guys!

What’s good?

Happy new week to you all...

Not much have been going on in my Love life o...

Okay except for my suitor from Holland. Yea the one I spoke about in my last post. The one whose English is not Kosher(like Afrobabe puts it,lol…)

Let's call him Mr.Holland from now on...

He hasn’t relented in calling me and sending text messages despite my unfriendly attitude at times.

My younger sister even called me ‘Harsh’ once when I told him matter-of-factly on the phone:

“I can’t marry you cos you don’t have a University education…”

He wasn’t fazed by my statement anyway and replied:

“But I can always get a University education. In fact I have plans to…”

The guy seems determined sha…

Anyway...

My love horoscope reading today says:

“You’re a true delicacy and if others can't see that, they don't deserve you. So stop selling yourself short. Your rare qualities are a fantastic match for someone who adores you. Hooking up just to hook up is truly a waste of your time right now”

It amazes me how right on point these readings can be at times.

Here I was beginning to think maybe I should take it easy with Mr. Holland and give him a chance after all,

Now this reading don put ‘comma’ inside o…

Now people what do you think this means?

That I shouldn’t lower my standards just because I want to get married?

Talking about standards…

Why do we limit ourselves with these standards sef?

:)
Be back shortly…

Ese o...

OMG!

I have been so out of touch in blogville.

Sorry my people o...flenty flenty tins to do like Musa my maiguard says,lol...

Logged into the naija Bloggers Award page this morning only to find that I was nominated for an award- Best Personal Blog.

I just wanted to say Ese o..., Daalu nu o... Thank you o...to everyone who nominated my blog.

I never expected to get a nomination seeing as there are so many lovely, interesting Naija blogs out there.

Even if i no win, my belle dey full with happiness.

But wait o...make una go complete wetin una start o...

Won't be bad to win the award, dont you think?

Then we'll all have a very merry party :) :)

Catch ya...

The dream, the Vision and the Suitors...

Last night, I got a text from a secondary school friend. She is getting married this weekend and had gotten my number from another friend of ours so she sent me an invite to her wedding.
In the text she had included her wedding website so this morning, I decided to check it out.
Their's was a sweet love story. As I browsed through the website I kept telling God in my heart-“Father this is what I want, this is what I want…”
Their love story inspired me and almost made me believe that someday even I will find love.

Now to the main koko of the my gist today,

A few days back, I got a call from a strange number. It was an international call from Holland.
I picked up. The caller was strange too but he knew my name cos he went:
“Hello, am I speaking to Aphro?”
I replied in the affirmative and he went on to introduce himself.
He was from my town, had gotten my number from my cousin, blab la bla…
I instantly knew what was up.
Someone had been doing some matchmaking!

Fast forward to days later.
I have learnt more about the guy cos he has been calling everyday and we chatted a few times online.
Some stuff i have learnt...
He isn’t bad looking (seen his webcam)
He works in a transport company in Holland.
He seems honest (He told me he works as a transport officer aka Driver. Many guys will not do this. They’d rather form and feed you lies. Trust me, am talking from experience)
But wait for this…
Bobo dey ‘tagbon’ well well for im English o! meaning am not too impressed with his spoken English especially with the fact that I happen to have an excellent grasp of the language.
Na that last one spoil the whole matter.lol…
One thing I appreciate in the opposite sex is a man with eloquence. A man who speaks well. A man whom I wont be too embarrassed to introduce to my friends for fear of him ‘disgracing’ me,lol…
No, he doesn’t have to speak phonetics and all, he just needs to know his tenses and not make statements like-“ I wented to work this morrrin”
LOL….
Okay he is not that bad sha but am not impressed with what I have heard coming from his mouth so far.

However, the kain dream wey I dream last night don put me for ‘Gbagharia’ (Confusion).

In the dream, I was with my parents and some relations and somehow we were talking about a suitor who was asking for my hand in marriage.
I had told them that I wasn’t interested in the man cos he wasn’t my type.
My mum then replied that it was okay. If he wasn’t my type, someone better will come along.
Next thing, someone in the meeting(cant remember which of my aunts it was) shouted:
“Haaaa…don’t say that o. Don’t you know that this is spiritual. She will keep finding faults with everyman that comes her way and in the end, she’ll never marry. Let her stop finding fault and marry this man before it is too late o!”

I woke up at that point and spent sometime thinking about that dream before sleep came again.
Since morning, I have been thinking about this dream. I havnt even been able to properly concentrate on my work all day.

I recalled something a friend once told me when we were in the university.
She was one of the “born again’ ones then in school but we had a good rapport.
One day, she approached me and told me about a dream/vision she had about me.
According to her, in the dream, she had seen me with so many suitors coming around, yet I rejected each one and it was revealed to her that I had a marine husband that was determined that I’d never get married in real life. He was the one who was always making me find one fault or the other in my suitors and even if I love someone, something will come between us to break the relationship.She went further to tell me that I may end up being unmarried if I didn’t go for deliverance and reject the spiritual husband.

Anyway, I did go for deliverance then and rejected the ‘so called’ spiritual husband but that incident had stayed with me ever since.

To be honest, I have had more than my fair share of suitors. More than your average girl.
In fact, I started having suitors since I was 17years.
Many of my cousins and friends always tell me that they are surprised I am still single till date. Everyone thought I’d be married with a brood of kids by now .


I still have some suitors hanging around, begging me to accept them.

There is K who hasn’t given up all these while even after all the shabby treatment I have given him.
There is Bobo Nice who is still hoping against hope.
There is this new guy who seems quite serious.

Now what is my problem?
Why can’t I accept one of them and take the plunge?
What is it I am looking for?
Why do I seem to find faults here and there?

And to worsen matters, the man I finally met and loved decided he didn’t want to be with me.

Na wa…
Am I under a curse?
Do I have a spiritual husband for real?

What do u think guys?
Help a sister out,plzzzzzzzzzz...

I still search...

In a couple of days, It will be St.Valentine's day.

Sadly I am one of those who are not looking forward to it.

I wish I could go to bed on the 13th and wake up to the 15th. It's silly yea, but that's how i feel.

This is not the way I hoped things would turn out.

This is not the love-life I ordered.

I dreamt of celebrating Val's day with the one I loved-the one I would have willingly given up everything for.

But sadly, it is not going to be.

It's all good though...

I'm still alive and that counts for something, right?

As long as there is life, there is hope...

If not this year, then next year...

I wont give up in my search for lasting love.

I still search...


PS: To all of you my darling friends, happy Vals day in advance.