This morning, I hooked up with B.G for breakfast. It had been a while(like 5 months) since we last saw. Yes, he called and sent texts regularly but anytime he tried to initiate a hook up, I always came up with some excuse or the other. I wanted him to understand that we were over and I was with someone else now but it was obvious that was a fact he wasn’t ready to accept.
So why did I finally agree to do breakfast wit him today? I don’t even know myself. Just that I thought, what da heck? It was just breakfast right? But I was wrong. It wasn’t just breakfast for him. He wanted to talk. Talk about us. About why we broke up and how he wanted us to get back together.
He looked good. Better than the last time I saw him. I had to compliment him on his look.
Breakfast was okay and he had a lot to say. He really wants us to get back together. He can’t see himself with any other woman except me. He hasn’t been able to open up to any other woman since I left him. The last time he had sex was with me and so on.
He wanted to know what the issues I had with him were so he could make amends and try to right the things that went wrong. How do I begin to tell a guy that I left him because he wasn’t a sharp dresser or his tee-shirts always had holes in them and his apartment lacked taste? Yea, I know, it sounds shallow abi? The truth is I probably didn’t love him cos if I did those things wouldn’t matter or would they?
Well, after much prodding from him as to why I left him. I had to mention some of the things above like his dress sense, his lack of taste and all. I was surprised at his reaction. He actually agreed with me that those were enough reason for me to have left. He told me that he was already working on himself as I could see(I told you he was well dressed). Then he asked me: “Aphro, if I got a better apartment, improved my dressing and got a new car. Do we still have a chance?” I didn’t say a word but I thought about his question. Would I go back to him? i didn't think so. Why? Because I was in love with someone else, Simple!
I didn’t say that to him though but am sure he understood what my silence meant cos he looked forlorn and disappointed. Then he went on:
“A new car, beautiful apartment, new clothes, all that would not mean anything to me if you are not there to share them with. You are the only woman whose compliment on my appearance matters to me. I want you to be the first woman to sit in my new car, I want to share the new apartment with you and you are the only woman I want to make love with on my new bed”
Na wa o!
This guy serious no be small. If only O can be as serious and in love as this, then I no get problem,lol...
Anyway, we had to cut the breakfast short. I had to get back to the office, same with him too. However we had an understanding. I had no plan of ending my relationship to get back with him and my suggestion was that he should try to open up to other women cos life doesn’t start and end with Aphrodite. He didn’t agree with this though, cos for him, there is nothing to live for without me.
It’s times like this that it hits me hard in the face. LIFE IS NOT FAIR!
On to something else.
A friend visited me last Sunday. She just recently got married. So we were talking about stuff and as usual with young women, the topic drifted to marriage issues. We both agreed that it was important to pray very hard before one takes the plunge into marriage but then she took it a bit further. According to her, it is very good to consult with prayer warriors who will seek the face of God regarding the marriage and tell you whether to go ahead or not. She told me her own experience.
She was supposed to get married about 3 years ago but before going ahead with the marriage plans, her mum went to this woman, a prayer warrior who prayed about it and told them not to go ahead cos he wasn’t her husband. She really liked the guy but decided to heed the woman’s advise. Today the guy is dead and she is very happy she didn’t marry him cos she would have been a widow by now.
I asked if she went to the prayer woman before accepting her current husband’s marriage proposal and she said Yes and that the woman had said she should go ahead, that God was in support.
Then she suggested that I see the woman because of all the guys coming for my hand (B.G, K, Bobo Nice and O) cos the person I want may not be the right one for me.
I don’t know if I should go cos am thinking, what if the woman says its Bobo Nice or K that is my husband and that O is not the man for me? Will I leave O and marry Bobo Nice just cos someone said that was what God said?
I no sure o.
So my friend has arranged for me to meet with this woman tomorrow. She only sees people on Tuesdays and Fridays. I have even got my boss’s permission to miss work tomorrow but am still undecided.
Should I go?
What do u guys think?
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Breakfast with B.G and Prayer warriors.
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Am first, go girl , go.. go go... lol
My dear, this would be a long comment but i will try and be brief, i have come to realise that it is better to seek the face of God in anything before you go ahead, i was dating a guy for over a year and were now planning marriage he came to see my parents and my mother refused to accept him.
Reason being she had gone to pray and they told her not one or two people that if i married him i will be divorced in less than a year of the marriage, i said lai lai it is not possible then a friend then took me to her church and i was told that he can have children but not a lasting marriage and if i married him i will be divorced and his own pastor said the same thing so i kunkun prayed myself, fasted for 3mths stretch and guess what i too come see am for dream, am happy i left o. You do not want to start your young life with wahala.
@laughter, woah! for real?
Thanks for the comment babes nd am glad u are first.
awww too bad for B.G
as per marriage its always important to seek the face of God cos we don't know the future and only God knows.
Even if you go see this woman, u need to Pray and fast by yourself.
Also pray on your own. God also speaks to 'small' people like us. As for the car, dressing, material stuff- i kinda feel u on that but that can change anytime. I know of a guy who's dress sense was TERRIBLE and the dude was boxed up- but when he got married- his dressing changed-it got better. Money comes and goes- just make sure the guy has the fear& understanding of God, loves you, and is HARD working and ambitious.
I pray God will guide you. And good luck with the prayer warrior.
It's a tricky one, babe. Do whatever your heart tells you to do.
Ver y tricky i must agree. And yes, u too have to pray to God urself, it's ur life involved, and i'm sure if u listen carefully, he will speak to you as well.
@bumight, thanks babes. Will do just that.
@tigeress, when one really thinks about it, all those physical stuff really dont count for much as against the real person(soul, mind and spirit)
@naijalines, thanks sista.
@mizchif, u got a point there babes.
i repeat.............
PRAYER
IS
THE
KEY
*Hope u make d rite decision'
O for .... :):)
asan' nwa
Aphrodite, I dunno why I'm not taken by O. For some reason, I feel like he's holding back. I don't know if any of the current players is your future hubby, but for some reason, my heart doesn't agree with O. Ask me which one be my own. Na me be him girlfriend? lol.
I'm definitely suggest you pray and since you've already agreed to see the woman, then you should. Y not, if not? U don't wanna make the wrong decision. I think you're just scared that she won't tell you what you wanna hear.
Hi kinda just stumbled on here.
I have an issue with folks that have turned themselves into prayer charlatans (eg Prayer Warrior).
I don't know PW but I doubt he/she is encouraging folks to seek God for themselves on matters arising.
Why don't you ask God for yourself. Be the prayer warrior of your own life. Certainly there is a time and place where you can seek counsel etc... I just think sometimes God is like I'm not a spook come to me yourself.
But hey if curiosity gets the better of you........
Well all the best. Do you= Do what's best for you!
Pls my dear sis.seek god by urself,fast 4 40 days if u must.u can go c dis woman thou outta curiosity,im sure she wil make good post material
i like bg's lines 'you are the last women i had sex with'..hehe some guys have sweet tongues don't you think..and yeah if you had loved him, the way he dressed wouldn't have been a factor in your relationship..
i do not like prayer warriors like that you described oh..i'm sure their own marriages must be perfect.. a guy friend of mine was to marry a girl i knew also..the guy chickened out cos his mum 'saw' ala 'prayer warriors' that the girl wasn't d one for him..
glad she didn't marry into that kind of family anyway...
goodluck dearie, but then God's the only one i'd consult in prayer ..
have a good weekend and take good care..thanks for the comment on my post...how can i be a homo when there are so many fine bootylicious women all over naija...lol
You have stated your opinions many times about how you feel about all four of them.I think you should listen to your own heart and pray yourself. My advice would be to clear your mind and try and focus on what you really want. Who knows? Maybe it's not gonna be any of them!
Chei! I no go wan dey ya shoes sha. Good luck oh, whatever you decide!
I dont agree with prayer warriors, because I dont know what spirits they are operating under or some are just plain false, they are no different from a palm reader/psychic BEWARE! Listen and hear from God yourself through fasting and prayer, no single soul can take that away from you. Be careful what you expose yourself to, I repeat BEWARE!
As a teenager I was told by "them" thanks to my mom that my ex would die by age 30, that sucker lol is 31 now, alive and well
wow... i blive u shud also pray on ur own.
C d woman if u want but also pray love.
BG..na wow o!
y am i so curious?? pls go!! lol
Hmm... I dont know if I accept d prayer warrior woman to decide husband. I say dis cos our parents didnt av dat in dia days but tins worked out. Do wat ur heart says and dats wat I tink works but ALWAYS ALWAYS PRAY!!!!! Goodluck in ur decision dear.
glad u were straight with B.G and in time he would find someone that would love him in the same way.
agree with Lolita, please seek God yourself, why do you need to go to someone that has never seen you, doesnt know you and suddenly knows who the right match for you is... abeg oh! these things can be more harmful than productive in the long run. There are reasons why you have a pastor (who's ur spiritual covering) if you are not confident enough to hear God yourself.. pay your pastor a visit.
my dear pray on ur own. God can speak to you directly
Iya pray for yourself, i think that's the most important, once you have yourself in prayers, the right revelation will come to you first, and God being God, he will confirm what he has revealed to you first by revealing it to one or more people.
Good luck.
daerie do the prayer thingy yaself
those prayer warriors...........hmmmmmmmmmmmm
I was sooo touched with B.G's statement..."A new car, beautiful apartment, new clothes, all that would not mean anything to me if you are not there to share them with..." It sounds like he knows what really matters...
Personally, I won't like someone to tell me...so so so is right for you and so so so is wrong for u. This is for 2 reasons.
1: If I pray to God, He will surely answer my prayer. He knows the desires of my heart and He knows what and when is best for me. Same with you. If you ask God, He will answer.
2: I would not want to look back 1 year in marriage and say "had I known" and put the blame on someone else.
There was a statement a lady said in passing when I was having indecision. She said "a woman knows what she wants..."
Deep down you know what you want. Maybe you might want to manage some things or put somethings aside...
Prayer to me is about talking to God openly and sincerily. Your prayer will make the difference.
Ok...sorry for my too much talk. Thank you for checking up on me. Thought I would be swallowed by activities but thank God for the public holidays. I can take a break.
Thanks so much.
Prayer warriors do not have a monoploy on the prayer postal service, neither do thier prayers go first class and yours go second. Personally I would never trust someone who doesnt know me or my circumstances at all to pray for me, coz they are so many different kinds of principalities and forces etc you might think someone is praying for you when they are heaping all those misfortunes etc. pray for yourself, if you need help (coz im sure where two or more are gathered.....) ask your family friends pastor etc to help you. I've never been to these prayer warriors so i cant make an objective statement but i think God's ear is not shortened so that it cant hear. YOu just put your trust in the Lord and your plans will be established, its not like you want to get married tomorrow, or you will take her advice anyway......dont do it just for curiosity's sake......remember it killed the cat. (enough said)
Aww B.G...
So, its tuesday now..did u go n what happened?? Pray tell!
Today's Wednesday o! Wat happened with d woman?
Did she tell u it isnt O? *curiously excited*
Besides, like Lolita said, I'm quite skeptical of self-confessed prayer warriors. Wetin happen btw u and ur God dat u gats go meet someone else to help u talk to him? Ehn?
@LG, O for wetin? Take time o,lol…
@vera, I appreciate ur comment dear. You must have a reason for your views. Sometimes I feel as if he is holding back too so u are probably right there.
@Lolita, thanks for coming by. I met the woman and I get the vibe that she is okay. She actually encouraged me to try and get closer to God and more prayerful so he can speak to me.
@mizcynic, thanks. Will do the post as soon as I find time.
@genius, yea the guy get lyrics no be small. Of cos God I sthe one to consulty but he also works through people, don’t u agree?
@waffarian, its not really about what I feel or want but what is God’s will for me. They may be two different things.
@newlife, I think prayer warriors are okay if they are working in line with the holy spirit. There are the fake ones tho.
@mz.dee, thanks love. Am also praying too.
@zara,lol…I went. Will satisfy ur curiosity soon.
@nikki, thanks dearie.
@ade, thanks for the advice bro.
@doll, thanks. I agree with you too.
@sprezatura, Na true you talk bros.
@ibiluv, I understand ur skepticism babes.
@rita, thanks babes for the too much talk,lol…I really appreciate ur words of wisdom.
@MissDM, done it already babes. I don’t think it is a bad move too.
@buttercup, patience sweetie, patience.
@Fineeboyagbero, wetin u want hear? Lol…am sure it will make ur day of she said that. Well, the verdict isn’t out yet. Make we dey wait.
u are too funnny! i'm adding you to my blog roll. ahn ahn, this babe, take it easy o...go n see the prayer warriors, don't play with your future o.
it's been a while you posted.
hope all is well
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